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Saturday, August 25, 2007

ahhhhh, what a relief

WOW, what a great day. I went into this meeting with butterflies and shaky nerves, but thankfully I had my Rock of a husband by my side and he kept me grounded instead of shaking like a leaf with nerves and anticipation.

I wondered what I would wear, too dressy? too dressed down? Is my hair ok. Would she notice I don't wear make-up? Would she care how I needed a hair cut? Would she notice I did not have my glasses on? Nope, none of that became a worry as we pulled up in the parking lot. I know, you might say, gosh, she is being superficial, but it is honestly the way I felt when I was getting ready this morning. Would she like me for who I am? Yes indeed she did.

I hoped we would get there at the same time of the social worker and we were just a few minutes earlier than her. We waited in the parking lot for the s/w to show. We went in and sat for a few minutes just chatting until the birthmother showed up. Then, A hug started off the meeting. I love it. I had hoped we all might feel comfortable enough to give each other a hug on the way out, but she offered one right up out of the starting gate. Wow, talk about sweet gesture from her and the ice breaker I needed. I felt as though I have known her for a long time. The conversation lasted about 1 hour and a few minutes longer. We all ended with hugs again. I await her call for the time and location of her doctors appointment she invited us to attend this coming week with her. I was excited to know she wants us to be able to see an ultrasound of the baby. She wants us to experience things that we never got to knowing we could never carry a pregnancy this far along.

Speaking of this far along. The due date is exactly one month out. Yes, one month out.

Ok, I am felling like I am so much in a better place emotionally! Thanks to a wonderful meeting today. I prayed it would go well and it went better than I ever expected or anticipated.

I am glad I have read up on the open adoption book. It really helped me understand to an extent the emotions the birthmother is going through. I will never be able to fully understand what she is going through, but between her explaining her emotions to us today and talking with the social worker, I feel more at ease knowing she has a support system to help her through this. She has the s/w at her disposal if she needs to chat. She can call us and she has a doctor that understands adoption. Thankfully she has an great support system through her family too. I told my husband I am still nervous, but expectantly so with adoption in general. I will hope and pray that we keep moving forward to a birth and placement in a few weeks time. I can't wait to get to know the birthmother more and continue to offer her our support.

10 comments:

Dana said...

That sounds so wonderful! I'm really glad things went so well for you both. Big prayers coming your way through the upcoming month.

twolinesonastick said...

yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

petunia said...

I went out and couldn't wait to get home and check in....This is so exciting - what a roller coaster ride this has all been! It's so nice she started with a hug - I'm guessing it helped put you more at ease....and to talk for an hour! that's so great....does she know if the baby is a girl or boy?

Karaoke Diva said...

That's great! I'm so glad things went well. I'm still keeping my fingers and toes crossed for another month to make sure that baby is with you! This is so exciting!!

millie said...

Sounds like things went great! So excited for you.

Jenna said...

So incredibly happy for you! This sounds like a perfect match. I love the hugs. I can only imagine how at ease that must have made you feel. I'm so happy for you.

stlouisgal said...

I am so happy for you, I am glad it went great. Fingers crossed and prayers continuing for a "final" outcome for this adoption. Love ya.

Mich said...

Oh how fantastic! I'm so glad that the meeting went well and you have that comfort level!!!

One month--the time will drag and fly by at the same time. I'm glad she's got a support network and that she wants to involve you so much pre-birth! We didn't make it to doc's appts or see an ultrasound, but we were there at the hospital and just being there from the beginning is so fantastic!
Treasure it all.....

Beagle said...

How wonderful! I'm so glad it went well for all of you!

DD said...

It must be such a huge relief to just feel comfortable in that kind of situation. I'm glad you are happy and that you've been invited to the US.

I am sorry to see that your husband's truck was stolen...I'm sure they'll find it, I'm just hoping it'll be still in one piece.