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Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Open adoption books I am reading.....

I received both of these open adoption books last week that I ordered from amazon....

I am about 28 pages into The Open Adoption Book by Bruce M. Rappaport, ph.d. ( A guide to making adoption work for you - what to expect if you decide on open adoption - why open adoption is preferable for both parents & children - what birthmothers, adoptive parents & their children say about their open adoption experience)....... Yes, I read many books at once....

The next book I got is The Open Adoption Experience by Lois Ruskai Melina & Sharon Kaplan Roszia. A complete guide for adoptive & birth families - from making the decisions through the child's growing years....

I am about 49 pages into this book. This is the book I posted about on Sunday talking about fears in adoption and fears I had with infertility.

Thought I would share the titles to these books because several of you have asked me either on here or by email what the book's name was that I blogged about here on Sunday.

I am going to focus on the second book above for now as I am in the throws of the latest Harry Potter book.

We went into adoption knowing we would seek an open relationship with our child's birthfamily, but we are prepared to accept any level of open adoption, semi-open or even a closed adoption if that is what the birthfamily seeks. We can't wait to do those update letters and pictures and chat about how the baby is growing and our family activities if that is what the birthfamily feels comfortable with. We would like to be able to visit at least once a year in person if miles between us are not too far. Heck, flying and meeting up in person is a hope, if possible too. Sure, that might seem way too open for some perspective adoptive couples, but we are comfortable sharing how we feel about the level of openness we wish to have. Each adoption relationship is different and even if we are very open at the beginning of the relationship, that level might slow in later dates of time or even increase if the level is more a semi-open adoption plan.

If you have adopted, what is your level of openness? None? Semi-open? Fully open with a few visits in person a year with letters and pictures to fill in that time?

3 comments:

Renee said...

Hi Bec- it's Renee.... I lost your e-mail address, do you still have mine? Email me, I want to send you some info.... Hang in there- you are in my thoughts.
Renee (resolve Renee :-)

GLouise said...

Hi there, I am a new reader, over here from Jenna's site.

We're pursuing domestic adoption as well. Ours will likely be "semi open," but who knows? It may grow into something more than that.

Speaking of books, have you read "Adopting after infertility" yet? I highly recommend it!

tubelessstl said...

glouise, yes, I read adopting after infertility about 1.5 years ago. Actually I started reading it just before my 5th IVF cycle in Sept/Oct 2005, but I was not ready for the book then and only got about 60 pages in and had to put it down. I got it back out in December and read it through in a few days time. Very good start to anyone that is dealing with infertility and might have a thought about adoption. I know the author is actually writing a book right now to replace that one. Let me find it and I will post about it later. thanks for the recommendation. It is one book I read first when starting out with adoption.